Posted by Amy Hale on January 4, 2010 at 10:36 am
Fear comes in many forms. It’s hypnotic and no one entirely escapes its grasp. People rationalize their fears which helps them excuse themselves from moving forward with their goals and visions for themselves.
Hate is a form of fear. Where there is one, there is often the other. “I hate meetings” could mean for some, “I’m afraid of speaking up in front of my boss because he is mean.” It turns into, “I’ll speak up next time,” but that next time doesn’t seem to ever come.
Some people tend to look at some of their fear on the bright side. “At least I won’t look foolish” or “if I say that, then I open myself up for being put down.”
But then a week goes by and everything is still the same. The person hasn’t spoken up in order to be noticed enough to be a credible part of the team. So s/he stays in the same old cubicle.
Are things better off than a year ago?
If not, things aren’t going to improve by themselves. It’s time to stop putting on the brake and really take some initiative to move ahead? Do you want to spend the next 40 years of your life feeling the same way? How many years are you going to let yourself just hang there in the same place in the hellish dungeon of rationalization?
If you want your life to move, you’re going to have to move it. No one is going to save you. If they were going to, they already would have. So, what are you waiting for?
Un-optimistic fear tends to get people moving forward. I can’t believe how many people come to see me when they find out they might be cut from their job or their doctor just diagnosed them with diabetes. They didn’t move until they were afraid.
So here’s an idea, define the worst thing that could happen if you didn’t accomplished what you want to accomplish? What are you putting off because of fear and what is it really costing you – financially, emotionally, and physically – by postponing taking action?
What are you waiting for? If you say you don’t have time or the time is not right, I can almost guarantee that fear is standing in your way and your rationalizing it so that you stay in the same place.
This post is intended to be a wake-up call for you and the wonderful life that awaits you. By thinking about the worst thing that could possible happen by not taking action – like being miserable or bored in the same job, not being able to make ends meet and feeling like a worthless pile or even living with someone you just don’t even like anymore – you can motivate yourself to take action.
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Posted by Amy Hale on December 1, 2009 at 2:59 pm
As we’ve crept closer and closer to 2009, I have been asked the ultimate question for my business and personal life, “What does success mean to you?” In the past month, I have heard, seen and participated in more contemplation than previous years. Hmmm, going through the
se challenging times – has it helped us become more thankful for what we have?
When asked what success is to me, I usually sum it up as “getting up in the morning and looking forward to the day.” It’s absolutely fantastic to feel the energy every morning knowing that I can conquer challenges, fulfill another goal and help other people feel more confident win life and business.
But it doesn’t really stop there. I love being able to spend quality time with my family and friends, go places whenever I want to and choose the projects I want to work on. That’s real wealth.
In business, the biggest success for me is to be able to choose which clients to work with. I realize I cannot help everyone and being able to choose allows me to help people even better. It’s incredibly rewarding when I read and hear the triumphs of people who came to me to help them overcome a challenge or move past an obstacle. I love hearing their reports on how much happier and free they feel.
My work gives me a sense of achievement and when a client tells me of their success, I feel successful, too. It feels so good to be able to help others succeed, that I just couldn’t not do it.
What does it take to succeed in life? It takes prioritization. I prioritize each day what it is I want to accomplish, as well as, help other to accomplish – whether it’s family, friends, or clients. I have found my own road, now make sure you make “real” success a priority for you.
Asking yourself, “what does success mean to you?” is a great place to start. I’d love to hear what success means to you.
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Posted by Amy Hale on November 11, 2009 at 1:19 pm
This week has been a whirlwind for a client of mine – a good one. Historically, this person has been so
meone who reacts to events in her life instead of taking ownership for her situations and creating solutions. However, she has recently discovered something completely different. Over-responding is much more desirable, healthy and emotionally profitable than over-reacting.
Last week, her landlord sold the building she had been renting in since the inception of her business and gave her 30 days to move. Even though that event was a huge shock, she decided not to over-react but over-respond. I reminded her that she is an entrepreneur who knows what she wants and goes for it. In fact, this past week when we set our minds to moving her into a new space, everything fell into place quite effortlessly. We expected to have to wait for movers to move her, however, when she called them, they said the only time they had available in the next few weeks was Saturday (four days after her call to them.) It seemed like magic.
The best part is before she even moved in, she was meeting new people and finding joint ventures with her office neighbors – something she was still challenged with at her previous space.
I truly believe in over-responding. As my good, late friend Thomas Leonard would say, “Anytime something big happens, whether it’s good or bad, do something bigger and you’ll continue to reach success.”
This week has been a whirlwind for a client of mine – a good one. Historically, this person has been someone who reacts to events in her life instead of taking ownership for her situations and creating solutions. However, she has recently discovered something completely different. Over-responding is much more desirable, healthy and emotionally profitable than over-reacting.
Last week, her landlord sold the building she had been renting in since the inception of her business and gave her 30 days to move. Even though that event was a huge shock, she decided not to over-react but over-respond. I reminded her that she is an entrepreneur who knows what she wants and goes for it. In fact, this past week when we set our minds to moving her into a new space, everything fell into place quite effortlessly. We expected to have to wait for movers to move her, however, when she called them, they said the only time they had available in the next few weeks was Saturday (four days after her call to them.) It seemed like magic.
The best part is before she even moved in, she was meeting new people and finding joint ventures with her office neighbors – something she was still challenged with at her previous space.
I truly believe in over-responding. As my good, late friend Thomas Leonard would say, “Anytime something big happens, whether it’s good or bad, do something bigger and you’ll continue to reach success.”
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