Posted by Amy Hale on December 26, 2011 at 7:13 am
Who wants to be happy? Most of us, of course. However, chasing happiness will always leave you chasing happiness. When people pursue success, aren’t they really pursuing happiness?
Think about this…
When you’re unhappy, you want to be happy. When you are, you want what you want and go get it.
This weeks experiment/exercise:
Imagine that you are happy already (because you choose to be). What do you still want? Your answer might be surprising. Write/type at least a page on what you would do if you were already happy and you’ll know your next steps.
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Posted by Amy Hale on November 21, 2011 at 7:07 am
In order to create what you want, you have to build a tolerance for getting what you want. You read that right – NOT a tolerance for what you don’t want but a tolerance for what you DO want. Right now, there are lots of people who haven’t built that tolerance or have lost there tolerance because of everything that seems to be going wrong around them. We have to build this tolerance for success, well-being, being happy, whatever it is that you want to increase and build it like a muscle. There are very few people who can skip the building up the muscle part of success.
Cheryl Richardson, Life Coach and author of Stand Up For Your Life, mentioned a great little tid bit last about conscious creation and building that muscle. Years ago when she was just learning about conscious creation she decided to imagine every day that she would create something new each day. She started out with things that didn’t mean that much to her, which made it easier to follow through in the beginning. If you ask for something that you desire, need or want too much, you’ll create a stopper instead of allowing it. So she imagined a big, juicy, succulent rent tomato and kept imagining it for several minutes. She then proceeded to go about her day and that very morning as she was driving to work a produce truck pulled up along side her at the stop light. There on the side of the truck was a beautiful, large, juicy looking tomato. She was amused, but still wasn’t quite sure that it wasn’t a coincidence. So the next day she decided she wanted to see a Rolls Royce. She had never seen one in her area before so that would help make her a believer if she did. The next day she saw two of them.
When she told me about this, I decided to try this experiment myself. I thought of a marshmallow – they’re not a familiar site in my life. So I meditated on this and forgot about it. (Remember one of the keys to magnetizing something is to not obsess about it.) That evening, I decided to relax in front of the TV for a little bit and a commercial came on with somewhat peculiar photographs. One of those photographs what an adorable white kitten laying on a bed of marshmallows. I love feeling amazed and allow myself to feel it a lot and this was one of those times.
Now I keep a log of all the small and large things I create in my life including how long it takes them to come in. It makes it a fun game for me. Could that work for you?
This week’s experiment:
1. Choose something to meditate on that you would like to see in your life. Pick something small and not to significant like I did. One magnificent thing about this experiment is that you don’t even have to believe it will work.
2. Write down what you are attracting and make a place for how long it takes for it to come in.
3. Let me know your results. The first three people to give me their feedback on how they did with this experiment will receive my Shape Your Success system “Fearless Public Speaking.”
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Posted by Amy Hale on November 7, 2011 at 7:30 am
Do you have a goal that seems to just stay out there in front of you? One that you just can’t seem to wrap your mind around it. Maybe even a small goal seem huge for whatever reason. Just like many of you, I let goals get the best of me until I really learned to annihilate them.
If you have one or more goals getting the best of you, what could you do to make it smaller than you? Alicia works in sales and most of her sales begin with speaking with a potential client by phone. She always had trouble with making these calls. She would put them off and put them off, finding other tasks to keep her busy. Her initial goal was to call four people per day to invite them to review what she had to offer.
Sure this could be deduced to fear of rejection, this or that, however, we decided to try an experiment to help her crush that goal. Instead of letting that goal control her, she became bigger than that goal and began imagining her success as having made the calls and feeling the freedom of being successful.
To her surprise, she began making her calls earlier and earlier in the day and she was calling approximately nine people per day. She told me that her goal was something that she didn’t want to do, however when she decided to beat it down and use her mind to accept no as a no instead of no meaning she wasn’t enough, she was able to make more calls than she anticipated. To her further surprise, she 2/3 of the people she spoke with were interested in speaking with her further.
This weeks experiment:
Do you have a goal that seems to always be there or you have trouble maintaining certain tasks (such as calling customers on the phone)? How is it controlling you? How can you make yourself larger than it?
Make the decision to annihilate that goal. Laugh at it, stomp on it. Imagine having accomplished it and how you feel with it behind you. Use that as your motivation to follow through with it.
Then notice how easy it really is to blast your goals because you’re bigger than they are and you’re in control.
Let me know how you do.
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Posted by Amy Hale on January 21, 2010 at 10:35 am
I was thinking this morning how beneficial setting goals and visions for our lives can be. It’s great, we know where we’re going, we can make better plans and the Universe knows where to meet us. But what about those people with procrastination challenges? People who procrastinate have a tendency to not make it to their goals and they sit around frustrated or doing something to escape the reality of self-imposed failure.
Earlier last year, I wrote about using a “have done” list, rather than using a “to do” list. There are many benefits to using this method to achieve short and long term goals. (You’ll need to subscribe to my ezine for the archived newsletter if you want to know the other great benefits of a “have don” list can bring.)
I’ve been thinking about subconscious goals vs. conscious goals lately. Subconscious goals usually override conscious goals. They are at the backbone of sabotaging the conscious agenda. If you have a subconscious goal or belief that doesn’t coincide with something that you consciously want to accomplish, you find it extremely hard or impossible to achieve what you want to achieve.
How many of us have ever made a list of goals or even just a “to do” list of the day. We get going and then stall out, never reaching the goal or it takes years longer to get to. If you’ve been a procrastinator and/or have had this experience over and over, you’ve trained your subconscious mind to react to goal setting as a goal failure. The subconscious habit/belief system sets in that when you write down the goal, you won’t achieve it.
So, for procrastination clients, I’m beginning to ask them what they want to accomplish but don’t write it down. Pick one or two goals, get a good picture or movie going in your head about how life will look when the goal is accomplished. It’s easy to remember what one or two goals are without writing them down. Then before going to bed, play the movie again and again until you fall asleep.
When you tell your subconscious mind what you want, during sleep it will figure out how to get it. Often you’ll wake up with what you can do first. But don’t write it down if you’re a procrastinator or if you often fail at achieving steps toward your goals.
Make the mental decision that you are going to take at step toward your goal that day. Then as you go about your day, write down what you’ve accomplished. You’ll also be including things that don’t appear to be related to the goal set in mind.
My clients have been finding this powerfully motivating. When they see everything that they accomplished, their confidence builds and their procrastination dissolves. Plus the subconscious begins to work with your conscious desires.
It’s been pretty cool. Coming from the standpoint of previously being a procrastinator, I get so much more done and it feels empowering.
I’d love to know if you experiment with this and the results or just leave a comment. Maybe you’ve used this or other methods. Please share. I look forward to commenting with you.
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