perception:
Posted by Amy Hale on October 31, 2011 at 7:22 am
Remember going to the carnival as a child? You were in such awe as you watched and maybe even participated in the spectacular shows and rides that were offered. The clowns and actors made spectacles of themselves to entertain you and the rest of the audience. If you had a sore toe or were feeling a little blue, having fun helped you refocus on something that made you feel good.
Letting your imagination take you to new places within yourself can also alter your perception and state of being. Even though the world seems like it’s becoming less stable and other people are struggling to pay their bills, you can evolve to a higher state by using your wonderful imagination.
When you are feeling down or negative, do you scold or even belittle yourself for having an attitude that feels bad? Have you ever thought about letting yourself have the negative without attaching yourself to them? Rather, let the come up, however, let them float away just the same. Instead of scolding yourself or judging the emotion as bad, could you just let it be for a moment?
When going through the feelings of sadness, anxiety, or resentment, people tend to forget to allow themselves to be human. Humans are emotional beings. When people stuff their emotions down or tell themselves that they are bad, they learn to distrust themselves and he value of of all of their emotions.
If you beat yourself up for having a negative emotion, this often activates a justification of unworthiness of better things. Our self-worth lowers as a result and guilt sets in for not being in control. It’s a big cycle. However, when you allow yourself to feel and metabolize your feelings and all self-forgiveness to take place, we see things in a different light plus we move from that space instead of resentment.
This week’s experiment:
Recognize your feelings for what they really are. Thoughts about people, events and things generate feelings. Do you best to acknowledge all of your feelings, including the ones that feel bad – like fear or sadness. Allow these feelings to be. Don’t judge them. Imagine them moving through your body and out your feet.
Then work at noticing how that affects your life. You’ll find that you’re more at peace, centered in the present moment, and your get more done with less effort.
Let me know your thoughts and how you do.
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Posted by Amy Hale on April 30, 2010 at 5:47 am
There is a paradox in asking for help. It appears to be a sign of weakness and surrender, when, in truth, it is a sign of strength.
Not asking for help only means you have a bigger commitment to your story than you do to your success. Maybe your story says you don’t need help. Your story says you can do this on your own.
But what if you were committed instead to success? What if you had no interest in building a heroic story and your sole focus was on achieving great things? Then you’d get help. Because the commitment would be to the result instead of how you appear to others.
I like this quote:
“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.” – Pema Chodron
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Posted by Amy Hale on April 12, 2010 at 5:58 am
Recently I took on a new client who is clearly a genius. Unfortunately, he refused to take an IQ test just in case he turned out not to be an “official” genius.
For years, I refused to read any books about relationships or do any exercises on building awareness because I feared that deep down, my relationship might be doomed. (For the record, 6 years and still going strong at this time of writing!)
In both cases the fear is clouding our perceptions. The reality is that until we are honest with ourselves, we are living a lie!
This Week’s Experiment:
Get a notebook to write in. (Don’t use your journal, if you have one. You’re going to destroy the pages)
Now, write for at least 5 minutes what you really think about the following topics:
a. Your partner
b. Money
c. Sex
d. The Government
e. The opposite sex
Be sure to write the stuff you would never say because it’s too rude, naughty, freaky, or just plain terrifying!
Decide whether you are going to burn, shred, or keep your work!
Please share your comments below.
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Posted by Amy Hale on April 2, 2010 at 5:57 am
I wake up each morning and exercise my body. I also exercise my mind with inspirational reading. These come from clippings and pieces that I have save over the years. They are very special to me and remind me how lively life is meant to be. It’s called life fro a reason, right? They don’t call it “trying to get through the day without becoming enraged or depressed.”
I believe we’re all born to be happy and great at whatever we choose to do. However, as we grow older, we add stories and negative beliefs and it sets us down a different path. Fortunately there is help to get us back on track. I do hope that you, the reader, are being helped by reading my messages, as I truly want to keep you on track.
This is the reading I pulled up today:
“Not a single person is born in the world who has not a certain capacity which will make him proud, who is not pregnant with something to produce, to give birth to something new and beautiful, to make the existence richer. There is not a single person who has come into the world empty.” — OSHO
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Posted by Amy Hale on March 29, 2010 at 6:00 am
Orr’s Law (by Dr. Leonard Orr) builds upon the theory that within every one of us, there are two people -one is a thinker; the other a prover.
The thinker, who roughly corresponds to your conscious mind, is that part of you that thinks up ideas and generates possibilities.
The prover, who roughly corresponds with your subconscious mind, has the job of collecting just the right facts to support whatever it is that the thinker thinks.
“Orr’s Law” is as follows: Whatever the thinker thinks, the prover proves.
This Week’s Experiment:
1. Choose two completely opposite statements about something (e.g. life, people, situations)
Examples:
Life is hard/Life is easy
People are naturally bad/People are naturally good
2. Write at least one paragraph to “prove” each statement.
Share and let us know what you learned.
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Posted by Amy Hale on March 19, 2010 at 2:01 pm
If you’re on the right path, you’ll get to where you want to go. Consistent commitment keeps you on the path.
The hardest thing for people to unlearn is the short attention span that’s been shaped by television, entertainment, letting the kids rule the roost, and by letting pernicious, untrue self-victimizing thoughts snuggle up into our belief systems. And this inability to be flowingly calm and ‘real’ is really just the inability to return the mind to the most important thing it can be thinking about in the present moment. It leads to a lot of much unfinished business. The unfinished business then leads to drama. The drama leads to self-dramatization including wild stories about how other people make us unhappy or destroy our dreams. This self-dramatization replaces the committed life.
As Steven Pressfield writes in, “The War of Art,” “Sometimes entire families participate unconsciously in a culture of self-dramatization. The kids fuel the tanks, the grown-ups arm the phasers, the whole starship lurches from one spine-tingling episode to another. And the crew knows how to keep it going. If the level of drama drops below a certain threshold, someone jumps in to amp it up. Dad gets drunk, Mom gets sick, Jenny shows up for church with a tattoo. It’s more fun than a movie. And it works: nobody gets a darn thing done.”
Please share your thoughts & converse with me.
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Posted by Amy Hale on February 11, 2010 at 5:48 pm
I talk out loud when I drive. I don’t worry about what I look like or who might notice. I don’t care if they think I’m on the phone or not. When I talk in the car, I talk to my inner team or to a customer who I want to make sure gets what I am wanting to convey. I might even sing a tune.
I learned to do this when I recognized how much I beat myself up while driving. Have you ever looked around and noticed that most people who are driving, if they’re not on their cell phones, their faces appear worried or angry. Or maybe their listening to all of the bad things in the new on the radio.
How do you want to feel when you’re driving to your destination? Do you want to bully yourself, hear more about a crummy economy or would you rather engage in a conversation with your team to make it the best day you’ve ever had?
Personally, I find that using my driving time to build myself up instead of using ways that break down my mindset is far more useful to me. When you hold worries and anger inside your head, it brings on headaches, ulcers and more worry and anger. Your whole nervous system goes wild.
Plus, if you’re not use to hearing your own voice or you want to practice moving toward fearless public speaking, the car is the perfect place to speak out.
Just think, your competitors don’t do this. They’re listening to their negative self-talk, terrible news or swearing at traffic. So speak to your inner team and step out from the crowd and make success happen – one drive at a time.
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