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Posted by Amy Hale on November 28, 2011 at 7:10 am
Written by Steve Chandler
Professional people fall into two categories. There are doers and there are feelers.
Doers do what needs to be done to reach a goal that they themselves have set. They come to work having planned out what needs to be done.
Feelers, on the other hand, do what they feel like doing. Feelers take their emotional temperature throughout the day, checking in on themselves, figuring out what they feel like doing right now. Their lives, their outcomes, their financial security are all dictated by the fluctuation of their feelings. Their feelings will change constantly, of course, so it’s hard for a Feeler to follow anything through to a successful conclusion. Feelings are changed by many things……..biorhythms, gastric upset, too strong a cup of coffee, an annoying call from home, a rude waitress at lunch, a cold, a bit of constipation. Those are the dictating forces, the commanders, of a Feeler’s life.
A Doer already knows in advance how much time will be spent on the phone, how much in the field, what clients will be cultivated today, what relationships will be strengthened, what communications need to be made. A Doer uses a three-step system to guaranteed success: 1) They figure out what they want to achieve. 2) They figure out what needs to be done to achieve it. And, 3) They just do it. This is not a theory, this is the actual measured and observed system used by all super achievers without fail.
Whether you are a Doer or a Feeler has nothing to do with your character or personality. It has everything to do with choice. Choice is the key to it. You can choose either one, at any time, in any situation. So today, as you are challenged by situations, be sure to ask yourself, “What can I do about this?” instead of “How do I feel about this?” You’ll be very pleased with the day you have.
Nice job Steve Chandler. I highly recommend Steve’s work and he has written several books that you can find on Amazon.com. Just type in his name and there’s a nice list of them. He also has built a wonderful club called Club Fearless which can be found at http://www.clubfearless.net
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Posted by Amy Hale on November 7, 2011 at 7:30 am
Do you have a goal that seems to just stay out there in front of you? One that you just can’t seem to wrap your mind around it. Maybe even a small goal seem huge for whatever reason. Just like many of you, I let goals get the best of me until I really learned to annihilate them.
If you have one or more goals getting the best of you, what could you do to make it smaller than you? Alicia works in sales and most of her sales begin with speaking with a potential client by phone. She always had trouble with making these calls. She would put them off and put them off, finding other tasks to keep her busy. Her initial goal was to call four people per day to invite them to review what she had to offer.
Sure this could be deduced to fear of rejection, this or that, however, we decided to try an experiment to help her crush that goal. Instead of letting that goal control her, she became bigger than that goal and began imagining her success as having made the calls and feeling the freedom of being successful.
To her surprise, she began making her calls earlier and earlier in the day and she was calling approximately nine people per day. She told me that her goal was something that she didn’t want to do, however when she decided to beat it down and use her mind to accept no as a no instead of no meaning she wasn’t enough, she was able to make more calls than she anticipated. To her further surprise, she 2/3 of the people she spoke with were interested in speaking with her further.
This weeks experiment:
Do you have a goal that seems to always be there or you have trouble maintaining certain tasks (such as calling customers on the phone)? How is it controlling you? How can you make yourself larger than it?
Make the decision to annihilate that goal. Laugh at it, stomp on it. Imagine having accomplished it and how you feel with it behind you. Use that as your motivation to follow through with it.
Then notice how easy it really is to blast your goals because you’re bigger than they are and you’re in control.
Let me know how you do.
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Posted by Amy Hale on May 7, 2010 at 6:00 am
“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at 20 or 80. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.” – Henry Ford
Dr. Norman Doidge’s his research team have positively proven that the old time “positive thinkers” and “motivators” like Napoleon Hill and Norman Vincent Peale were actually right: you are not “STUCK” with the brain power and creativity levels you were born with.
Their research shows that the brain actually physically adds capacity, in the same way an exercised body muscle adds strength, when you learn something new. It doesn’t just add information, it adds learning-strength, and measurable dendrite growth in the brain. Learn a new musical instrument, or learn a new language, or a new profession and your brain actually grows smarter and more capable of solving problems! (There’s another reason to shift your position.)
A lot of experts have believed this all along. Even Thomas Jefferson said, “The more you do, the more you can do.” But now, thanks to the new brain research described in Dr. Doidge’s book “The Brain That Changes Itself,” these intuitions are now measurable facts.
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Posted by Amy Hale on April 19, 2010 at 6:00 am
“Infatuation is when you think he’s as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, and as athletic as Jimmy Connors. Love is when you realise that he’s as sexy as Woody Allen, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger, and nothing like Robert Redford – but you’ll take him anyway.”
-Judith Viorst
People are continually being told to “do what they love and love what they do” in order to be successful. However, even with the multitude of books and audios on the market, many people still find themselves wondering what they love to do and inevitable wind up as desperate and unhappy in pursuit of doing what they love as much so as they are in the pursuit of who they love!
Are you in love with your visions of prosperity and abundance, or is it just infatuation? Here’s the simple test -
If it hurts, it isn’t love.
This Week’s Experiment:
(Based on Dr. John F. DeMartini’s book, Count Your Blessings: The Healing Power of Gratitude and Love)
Write down your vision of prosperity and abundance.
Imagine that vision is now a reality. List ten reasons or ways your abundant life is wonderful.
Now list ten problems or challenges that will still be in your life even when your vision is your reality.
Review the ten reasons or ways that your new life will be wonderful. Circle the one you believe you lack most now.
List at least three times when you have already experienced aspect you think you lack.
Finally, review the ten aspects of your vision you don’t yet like. Circle one aspect you think you could either accept or change.
May you fall in love with your life!
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Posted by Amy Hale on January 31, 2010 at 11:27 am
Adapted from Wayne Dyer
- Have a mind that is open to everything
- Practice non-attachment.
- You cannot give what you don’t have. (e.g. love) If you are in the habit of saying “gimme”, the universe will say the same thing. If you are in the habit of saying “what can I do for you”, the universe will say the same thing.
- There are no justifiable resentments.
- Don’t Die with your music still in you. All of you have a heroic mission. There is a purpose to everyone.
- Embrace silence. (Here you will connect with God.)
- Give up your personal history.
- You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it. (Literally rewrite your agreement with your reality. Admit you were wrong and you’re not going to make those choices anymore. It didn’t work. Now I realize that it didn’t work, I will change my mind.)
- Treat yourself as if you already were what you would like to become.
- Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts which weaken you.
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Posted by Amy Hale on January 21, 2010 at 10:35 am
I was thinking this morning how beneficial setting goals and visions for our lives can be. It’s great, we know where we’re going, we can make better plans and the Universe knows where to meet us. But what about those people with procrastination challenges? People who procrastinate have a tendency to not make it to their goals and they sit around frustrated or doing something to escape the reality of self-imposed failure.
Earlier last year, I wrote about using a “have done” list, rather than using a “to do” list. There are many benefits to using this method to achieve short and long term goals. (You’ll need to subscribe to my ezine for the archived newsletter if you want to know the other great benefits of a “have don” list can bring.)
I’ve been thinking about subconscious goals vs. conscious goals lately. Subconscious goals usually override conscious goals. They are at the backbone of sabotaging the conscious agenda. If you have a subconscious goal or belief that doesn’t coincide with something that you consciously want to accomplish, you find it extremely hard or impossible to achieve what you want to achieve.
How many of us have ever made a list of goals or even just a “to do” list of the day. We get going and then stall out, never reaching the goal or it takes years longer to get to. If you’ve been a procrastinator and/or have had this experience over and over, you’ve trained your subconscious mind to react to goal setting as a goal failure. The subconscious habit/belief system sets in that when you write down the goal, you won’t achieve it.
So, for procrastination clients, I’m beginning to ask them what they want to accomplish but don’t write it down. Pick one or two goals, get a good picture or movie going in your head about how life will look when the goal is accomplished. It’s easy to remember what one or two goals are without writing them down. Then before going to bed, play the movie again and again until you fall asleep.
When you tell your subconscious mind what you want, during sleep it will figure out how to get it. Often you’ll wake up with what you can do first. But don’t write it down if you’re a procrastinator or if you often fail at achieving steps toward your goals.
Make the mental decision that you are going to take at step toward your goal that day. Then as you go about your day, write down what you’ve accomplished. You’ll also be including things that don’t appear to be related to the goal set in mind.
My clients have been finding this powerfully motivating. When they see everything that they accomplished, their confidence builds and their procrastination dissolves. Plus the subconscious begins to work with your conscious desires.
It’s been pretty cool. Coming from the standpoint of previously being a procrastinator, I get so much more done and it feels empowering.
I’d love to know if you experiment with this and the results or just leave a comment. Maybe you’ve used this or other methods. Please share. I look forward to commenting with you.
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Posted by Amy Hale on January 14, 2010 at 3:48 pm
Once in a while there’s a goal I set and for one reason or another I don’t reach it. I either change my mind or I don’t actively move toward it at all. When I don’t reach a goal, I take a few moments to review that goal once again. Usually I’ll find that the goal was just a middle of the road goal or mediocre goal that was similar to a lot of other goals out there.
A friend once told me that realistic goals are often mediocre goals and it’s actually easier to reach goals that at first seem unrealistic. He mentioned that’s how he made his first $500,000. You see, since most people set realistic goals, they find a lot of people making similar goals and it then appears to be a competitive goal. If many people are attempting to make ends meet and the average income is, let’s say, $60,000, why not shoot for more? There are far fewer millionaires than there are people making $60,000. It can be lonely at the top.
Another reason for setting unrealistic goals is that having a powerful goal and vision is far more motivating than having a mediocre goal. When you have a mediocre goal, the effort toward that goal is often also mediocre. This was my problem, I would set mediocre goals and give mediocre effort, but now I’m much more motivated by making the big ones.
Can you review your goals and make them bigger and easier to achieve?
Once in a while there’s a goal I set and for one reason or another I don’t reach it. I either change my mind or I don’t actively move toward it at all. When I don’t reach a goal, I take a few moments to review that goal once again. Usually I’ll find that the goal was just a middle of the road goal or mediocre goal that was similar to a lot of other goals out there.
A friend of mind once told me that realistic goals are often mediocre goals and it’s actually easier to reach goals that at first seem unrealistic. He mentioned that’s how he made his first $500,000. You see, since most people set realistic goals, they find a lot of people making similar goals and it then appears to be a competitive goal. If many people are attempting to make ends meet and the average income is, let’s say, $60,000, why not shoot for more? There are far fewer millionaires than there are people making $60,000. It can be lonely at the top.
Another reason for setting unrealistic goals is that having a powerful goal and vision is far more motivating than having a mediocre goal. When you have a mediocre goal, the effort toward that goal is often also mediocre. This was my problem, I would set mediocre goals and give mediocre effort, but now I’m much more motivated by making the big ones.
Can you review your goals and make them bigger and easier to achieve?
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Posted by Amy Hale on December 1, 2009 at 2:59 pm
As we’ve crept closer and closer to 2009, I have been asked the ultimate question for my business and personal life, “What does success mean to you?” In the past month, I have heard, seen and participated in more contemplation than previous years. Hmmm, going through the
se challenging times – has it helped us become more thankful for what we have?
When asked what success is to me, I usually sum it up as “getting up in the morning and looking forward to the day.” It’s absolutely fantastic to feel the energy every morning knowing that I can conquer challenges, fulfill another goal and help other people feel more confident win life and business.
But it doesn’t really stop there. I love being able to spend quality time with my family and friends, go places whenever I want to and choose the projects I want to work on. That’s real wealth.
In business, the biggest success for me is to be able to choose which clients to work with. I realize I cannot help everyone and being able to choose allows me to help people even better. It’s incredibly rewarding when I read and hear the triumphs of people who came to me to help them overcome a challenge or move past an obstacle. I love hearing their reports on how much happier and free they feel.
My work gives me a sense of achievement and when a client tells me of their success, I feel successful, too. It feels so good to be able to help others succeed, that I just couldn’t not do it.
What does it take to succeed in life? It takes prioritization. I prioritize each day what it is I want to accomplish, as well as, help other to accomplish – whether it’s family, friends, or clients. I have found my own road, now make sure you make “real” success a priority for you.
Asking yourself, “what does success mean to you?” is a great place to start. I’d love to hear what success means to you.
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Posted by Amy Hale on November 11, 2009 at 1:19 pm
This week has been a whirlwind for a client of mine – a good one. Historically, this person has been so
meone who reacts to events in her life instead of taking ownership for her situations and creating solutions. However, she has recently discovered something completely different. Over-responding is much more desirable, healthy and emotionally profitable than over-reacting.
Last week, her landlord sold the building she had been renting in since the inception of her business and gave her 30 days to move. Even though that event was a huge shock, she decided not to over-react but over-respond. I reminded her that she is an entrepreneur who knows what she wants and goes for it. In fact, this past week when we set our minds to moving her into a new space, everything fell into place quite effortlessly. We expected to have to wait for movers to move her, however, when she called them, they said the only time they had available in the next few weeks was Saturday (four days after her call to them.) It seemed like magic.
The best part is before she even moved in, she was meeting new people and finding joint ventures with her office neighbors – something she was still challenged with at her previous space.
I truly believe in over-responding. As my good, late friend Thomas Leonard would say, “Anytime something big happens, whether it’s good or bad, do something bigger and you’ll continue to reach success.”
This week has been a whirlwind for a client of mine – a good one. Historically, this person has been someone who reacts to events in her life instead of taking ownership for her situations and creating solutions. However, she has recently discovered something completely different. Over-responding is much more desirable, healthy and emotionally profitable than over-reacting.
Last week, her landlord sold the building she had been renting in since the inception of her business and gave her 30 days to move. Even though that event was a huge shock, she decided not to over-react but over-respond. I reminded her that she is an entrepreneur who knows what she wants and goes for it. In fact, this past week when we set our minds to moving her into a new space, everything fell into place quite effortlessly. We expected to have to wait for movers to move her, however, when she called them, they said the only time they had available in the next few weeks was Saturday (four days after her call to them.) It seemed like magic.
The best part is before she even moved in, she was meeting new people and finding joint ventures with her office neighbors – something she was still challenged with at her previous space.
I truly believe in over-responding. As my good, late friend Thomas Leonard would say, “Anytime something big happens, whether it’s good or bad, do something bigger and you’ll continue to reach success.”
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Posted by Amy Hale on October 3, 2009 at 5:12 pm
Are you doing what you incarnated to do? Do you love how you spend your days, every day Monday thru Friday?
If you’re like thousands and more thousands of people, these questions may hit a sore spot or even seem ridiculous. ‘I can’t afford to ask myself things like that,’ one man said to me. ‘I’ve got a family to take care of and a mortgage to pay.
But just because it’s a difficult question doesn’t mean it’s not worth answering. And the question becomes more and more important as you get older.
Trying to ‘make yourself’ do what feels wrong to you is like walking in whatever direction you are facing and forcing the needle in your compass towards north. While it may work for a while, as soon as you let up the pressure for even a moment, the compass will begin to self-correct and you’ll find yourself in the wrong direction. You might be lost and don’t know how to come back to full reality and sanity. Uninspiring and treacherous stress comes from forcing yourself to do what you don’t want to do each day only leads to strain, tension and potential illness.
If you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your feelings and quite literally ‘making the best of a bad job’, it may seem like it’s too late (or too scary) to do anything about it. But chances are that the changes you need to make are nowhere near as dramatic as you think. So don’t go quitting your job, selling your things and joining the convent. Even if big changes are called for, you don’t have to make them in a dramatic way.
Here are three simple changes, as described by Michael Neill – Super Coach, you can make that will make a major change in how you feel about your working life:
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1. Become self-employed while you’re still at your job.
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If you’ve begun saving money for your retirement, chances are you’ve done it by withholding money from your paycheck each month. A more effective strategy is to have all your money paid into a central ‘reservoir’ account. This can be a savings or even a home equity account. Then ‘deduct’ the money for your monthly expenses into a checking account.
Now instead of taking money away from yourself in order to save, you are having to take money away from yourself in order to spend. And for most people, when you see your reservoir of cash begin to grow, you will become less interested in spending and more interested in the freedom that comes with not being dependent on your job for your income.
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2. Get noticeably better at whatever it is you do.
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Extensive research into optimal experience at work shows that people who challenge themselves to continually improve at what they do not only increase their value in the marketplace, they enjoy their jobs considerably more than those who just do the minimum required to get by. While further training may or may not be a practical option for you, there are always ways to enhance your skills on the job.
One simple trick is to imagine you are training your replacement – if you had to teach someone to do what you do, how would you do it? In thinking about how to teach someone else to do your job, you will invariably find little improvements you can make that not only make you better, they make the job more enjoyable.
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3. Begin exploring new possibilities
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Many people fear that if they begin exploring other options, they will become more and more discontented and miserable about what they are currently doing. But only one of two things can really happen. Either you will find out that what you’re doing isn’t as bad as you thought when you compare it to what else is out there, in which case you’ll begin to appreciate and enjoy it more, or you’ll find out that there really is a job or career path that’s calling to you.
And if you are fortunate enough to find a job that’s also a calling, you will never have to work another day in your life!
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